I am not sure what the gist of your reply was and would like to ask you to enlarge on that .
Words have meaning and are the sole source of communication amongst humans and therefore we must first understand what is the meaning of what we say. We must also use human interactions (history) as a guide to our actions and reactions. This history extends for more than 4000 years and is therefore essential in understanding the human condition.
In view of all that , how do we make peace? That is a very tough question and whole books have been written on this topic. As a matter of fact ALL humans yearn for peace and a peaceful existence. We differ as to its meaning and most of us have a problem with explaining what it actually means.
My basic problem is with people that tell me that I don't want peace without explaining why that is their conclusion, and try to show that they have all the answers as to why peace is not here. I just chuckle when I hear people on peace sites take a one sided view and simply rattle off a list of sound bites to explain how peace can be attained without taking into account both sides view.
Environment, history and the social order where we hail from and the society that we are part of may be the things that you and I have in common but our paths throughout our lives dictate our differences and keep in mind that we are individuals different from one another. Creating democracies and education where differences amongst ourselves is celebrated is the way towards , not peace, but co-existence and that must be what we are striving for.
Jews by and large understand the Arab narrative but that is not the case with the Arabs and the Jewish history in Palestine is not even acknowledged the the Arabs. How can that bring peace?