as I am one of the mepeace.org who we need to trust I share with you that recently some aggressive Blame-Game discussion made some roots in our forum. Just let us be conscious about it and moderate ourselves.
We cannot blame the blamers its their "truth" after all.
I remind you that mepeace.org is a free forum and as any one brings his/her perspective and judgments of what are the fundamental and central issues one need to accept others who express her/his perspectives of the fundamental and central issues
Please trust me, I do not have any manipulative plans as I express freely my opinions as anyone else. If you do not trust me, it is hard to recognize that we are different and accept each other.
From my perspective we all should self-reflect in the national & identity level and the personal level. I know I cannot convince any of you ; I just ask you to recognize and respect different perspectives . I hope that from all perspectives we can share this one world.
Here some palyful: terminology of Blame Game it can be used to describe a repeatably failure that generates aggression within us and bring endless debate that the results are pre-known.
The Game goes like this in its simplest form:
- A: HERE IS A TRUE STORY "xxxx" since it is true I conclude that what I always SAID as truth "tttt" is valid and hence the solution is need to be "sssss". The root of all suffering is "rrrr" which and I blame the Israelis (or Palestinians) for bring that evil to our life.
- B: "xxxx" is a lie, go study history since the TRUE STORY "SSSS" since it is true I conclude that what I always SAID as truth "EEEEE" is valid and hence the solution is need to be "GGGGG". The root of all suffering is "KKKK" which and I blame the Palestinians (or Israelis ) for bring that evil to our life.
The peak of the Game where we see :
- A: I just proved that you are a narrow minded person with f**ked propaganda and I not need to listen to you as you are agent of Evil
- B: Who do you call agent, you are Jew (Arab) lover and ignore relity and poison our beloved forum with you empty Propaganda.
and it continue
(message to C): - B: did your see how A said this lies, he/she a member in the mossad (mohabarat) I am sure; we should kick his/her ass out and remember we are fighting for peace this is a war. so are you with me or against me?
This is just one template that you may recognize, there are many other forms that bring the same output.
The cost of the blame game - empty discussion with expected pre-known outcome.
so sad and so human . will we be able to get deeper conversations?
Reply by Hayyim Feldman :
Ok, good, thanks for your explanation. If you read "My personal story" on my profile page, you'll see that this 3rd seat has been important to me since my childhood.
But I want to re-emphasize your original cautionary note. To enter into this 3rd seat, one steps out from participating in the dance of mutual blaming that goes on between Israelis and Palestinians, and begins to witness that dance instead, with a measure of critical distance. Excellent. However, by that very same step, one can also easily create a new blame-dance: This one is no longer between Israelis and Palestinians, but between "moderates" (us; good) and "extremists" - that is, the folks still stuck in that older blame game that we've so wisely left behind.
So to me, the most important part of your opening message was the idea expressed in the title (even though you didn't explain or refer to it in the remainder of what you wrote): Don't blame the blamers. In the end, "new" or "old," it's all the same fiery dance of blame, and it will burn down our shared home while we dance ourselves into oblivion.
The more person aware of this dance and avoid it from the understanding that we are one body of humans. I expect moderates to recognize the view of the extremist and moderate them to more practical way then blame-game.
If moderate people will measure themselves not on the basis of "how much sure they are to think of themselves as moderate"; but will look for including and integrating all claims from all the whole spectrum and also check how practical they are in the way they promote change for the better in their society.
the key of moderation is deep acceptance that we are all one tissue of humans who ask for their fair share of what be are blessed. moderation is deeply taking into account the all parameters of a change that need to be done.